firewall: options to select connection-tracking helpers

My main reason for adding this is the ability to turn off helpers
altogether. If you are not using any of the special protocols, keeping
them turned off is safest, and in case you do want to use them, it's
best to configure them through the new CT target for your network
topology. Perhaps some sane defaults for nixos can be examined in the
future.

This change has no impact if you don't touch the added options, so no
need to adapt.