Respect NIX_DONT_SET_RPATH when .so appears in the command line

Unified processing of command line arguments in ld-wrapper broke support for
`NIX_DONT_SET_RPATH` and revealed that ld-wrapper adds the directory of its
`-plugin` argument to runpath. This pull request fixes that. It treats
`dir/libname.so` as `-L dir -l name`, because this is how `ld.so` interprets
resulting binary: with `dir` in `RUNPATH` and the bare `libname.so` (without
`dir`) in `NEEDED`, it looks for `libname.so` in each `RUNPATH` and chooses the
first, even when the linker was invoked with an absolute path to `.so`.